Wow. Wasn't at the con, was pointed here for the shallowest of reasons (looking for details on that movie James is doing with Derek Jacobi and Sean Bean), but just read this and it's wonderful -- I loved what you said about people not being able to see past cultural stereotypes in the Buffy/Spike relationship when slapping on labels like "abuser" and "abused" and the problems with putting women on pedestals in the name of feminism. Would like to link to this post...