Ooh, neat, I've got a soulmate. But now you know that neither of us can ever love anyone else, because we're meant to be 4eva! ;)
Seriously, though, we really ought to hang out more. Are you coming to herself_nyc's gathering on the 21st?
You know, I really think that James does believe everything that he's saying. And I think it's because of his idealization of women; in his mind, it would be impossible to even conceive the idea of a woman, especially a small, blond, pretty woman, abusing a man. The actual facts of the situation are meaningless; he's just fitting the sitatuion into his particular interpretation of social gender roles. Plus, he's so personally hurt and upset by the attempted rape scene (which he has described several times as "the worst day of [his] life") that he is incapable of seeing the situation in any kind of unbiased light.
I really wish someone would show him Kristen Smirnov's domestic abusive essay (here), which says everything I wish he would "get" about why we identify with Spike and about how Spike was the victim and Buffy was the abuser.
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Re: I have a theory
Date: 2003-06-10 03:23 pm (UTC)Seriously, though, we really ought to hang out more. Are you coming to
You know, I really think that James does believe everything that he's saying. And I think it's because of his idealization of women; in his mind, it would be impossible to even conceive the idea of a woman, especially a small, blond, pretty woman, abusing a man. The actual facts of the situation are meaningless; he's just fitting the sitatuion into his particular interpretation of social gender roles. Plus, he's so personally hurt and upset by the attempted rape scene (which he has described several times as "the worst day of [his] life") that he is incapable of seeing the situation in any kind of unbiased light.
I really wish someone would show him Kristen Smirnov's domestic abusive essay (here), which says everything I wish he would "get" about why we identify with Spike and about how Spike was the victim and Buffy was the abuser.