This is one of those things that drives me crazy about, well, humans. Something can be real and genuine and meaningful, but if it doesn't fit into some pre-defined template it doesn't "count," it's not "real."
Like Buffy pining for a normal life and failing to appreciate the wonderful friends and unique powers she already had, that were so much better and more meaningful than her white picket fence fantasy. Or everyone saying Spike's taking care of Dawn didn't count because he didn't have a soul, as if that made him love her any less, as if that made his sacrifices not count.
Or, yes, Brian's relationship with Michael--unusual, sure, but a hell of a lot more real and meaningful than some stupid little traditional romance done for the sake of "legitimacy." (Michael's romance with Dr. Asshole, for example. So wrong for each other in every way, but oh, he's a rich doctor, so it must be worthwhile!)
I hate seeing people give up the things that are meaningful to them because society says that those things don't count. Like best friends losing each other to marriages, when the friendship will always mean more. Or "real writers" criticizing fanfic, because it's not as "legitimate," when some of the best stuff I've ever read in my life has been fic. Or my parents acting like there's something illegitimate about me living in a tiny East Village apartment instead of some condo in the suburbs.
I'm so babbling. *sigh*
Yeah. Brian/Michael. It drives me crazy, too--watching morons like Deb and Ted and Lindsay lecturing Brian and Michael about how they have to give each other up and "grow up." Who defines what growing up means, or what counts as a legitimate relationship? I would never give up a real friendship for such a moronic reason--true friends are one of the most rare and amazing things you'll ever experience in life.
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Date: 2005-05-03 10:03 am (UTC)Like Buffy pining for a normal life and failing to appreciate the wonderful friends and unique powers she already had, that were so much better and more meaningful than her white picket fence fantasy. Or everyone saying Spike's taking care of Dawn didn't count because he didn't have a soul, as if that made him love her any less, as if that made his sacrifices not count.
Or, yes, Brian's relationship with Michael--unusual, sure, but a hell of a lot more real and meaningful than some stupid little traditional romance done for the sake of "legitimacy." (Michael's romance with Dr. Asshole, for example. So wrong for each other in every way, but oh, he's a rich doctor, so it must be worthwhile!)
I hate seeing people give up the things that are meaningful to them because society says that those things don't count. Like best friends losing each other to marriages, when the friendship will always mean more. Or "real writers" criticizing fanfic, because it's not as "legitimate," when some of the best stuff I've ever read in my life has been fic. Or my parents acting like there's something illegitimate about me living in a tiny East Village apartment instead of some condo in the suburbs.
I'm so babbling. *sigh*
Yeah. Brian/Michael. It drives me crazy, too--watching morons like Deb and Ted and Lindsay lecturing Brian and Michael about how they have to give each other up and "grow up." Who defines what growing up means, or what counts as a legitimate relationship? I would never give up a real friendship for such a moronic reason--true friends are one of the most rare and amazing things you'll ever experience in life.