Self indulgent bitching
Nov. 7th, 2003 04:31 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rusty_haloI just defriended a bunch of people. I don't mean to seem pompous; I'm just explaining why because I know some people tend to get upset when defriended, so I want to clarify that it wasn't personal and wasn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings.
I enjoyed last night's "Angel." I thought it was funny and well-written. I don't particularly like the lack of story arc or the exposition worked into the dialogue, but I think they're basically setting the scene for the arc that will come later. I think the writers this year have a lot more passion and interest in their work than the BtVS writers had for the past two seasons. I think they're incorporating all the characters as well as can be expected; they haven't just given up on the ones they're bored by (as the BtVS writers did with most of the characters in later years). I find the jokes amusing, and while the plots have been dumbed down a bit, the themes are interesting and the writers are putting effort into exploring them.
That said, the story this year just doesn't resonate with me. When I got into BtVS -- in late season five/early season six -- something about it just connected deeply with me. There were these moments like: Spike resisting torture in Intervention, Buffy giving Spike a little kiss and telling him that what he did was "real," Spike reaching out to touch Dawn's hair, Spike reassuring Dawn that she's not evil, Spike grabbing the sword with his bare hands, Spike reassuring Tara that it was okay that she burned him, Xander lighting Spike's cigarette for him, Spike promising to protect Dawn until the end of the world, the look on Spike's face when Buffy invites him back into her home, Spike crying over Buffy's body, Spike playing cards with Dawn, Spike wincing at the Buffybot, Spike taking Buffy's hands and promising to take care of her, Spike slamming his fist into the wall, the 147 days speech, the "every night I save you" speech, etc.
Watching those, I had that feeling you get when you listen to great music, or watch a brilliant movie, or see a gorgeous painting; when you experience art that connects with you. I know this sounds clichéd and stupid, but I don't know how else to express it: it's like the art goes straight into your soul. I got that feeling again, for the first time in a long time, when I saw the Cruxshadows last weekend. I haven't gotten it from Spike since the end of Beneath You, and before that the last time was early season six.
The aspect that appealed to me most about Spike's story was that he was such an outsider, and he wanted to find love and acceptance. I wanted to see the story of someone who became a better person but didn't have to conform; I wanted to see that he deserved to be loved for what he did, not who he was. I wanted to see that his actions mattered more than his essential nature. I wanted a story that said you can be different, not fit into what other people want you to be, reject the whole idea of "normal," not be a "champion," not be the subject of prophecy, just be yourself and live your life and that's okay--you can still find a place.
This mattered to me because I've always felt this struggle, this question, can I be myself and still find a place? Do I have to conform to other people's expectations or can I be a good person according to my own definition (and who cares what anyone else thinks)? I've always been an outsider, and preferred to be an outsider ("normal" holds no appeal whatsoever) and I wanted to see a story that said that you can be an outsider and still matter, still lead a satisfying life.
Um, I didn't get that story. I got a story of conformity and destruction of individuality. I watched Spike change himself and change himself to please a moron who had no capacity whatsoever to appreciate or understand or care about him. When he refused to get over his pathetic Buffy obsession (why couldn't he see that she was a vicious selfish bitch who didn't deserve his love in any way, shape, or form???) and then went to get a soul to please her, Spike went from someone I respected, identified with, and cared about to someone I pitied.
On BtVS, I watched "normal" be held up as an ideal to which all should aspire and can never be happy without. And now in AtS I'm watching Spike desire not only normalcy, but to have his existence validated by some big shiny prophecy? Sorry, but I couldn't care less. Spike, get over it and stop waiting for someone else to validate you. You don't have to be a "champion" to matter as a person. You don't have to be human to enjoy "life." You have superpowers and eternal life; enjoy it!
(Please don't argue with me about this; it's purely subjective. I'm not saying it's some absolute truth or the only way to interpret the characters; I'm just saying this is what I feel and why I'm unhappy with the show.)
Anyway, so that's the reason I'm losing interest in the show. The story and the characters just don't resonate with me personally. I do think they've been written well so far on AtS, but the themes just aren't something I care about anymore. I still get upset when bad things happen to Spike, but nothing that fits my definition of "good" has happened in a long time, so it's basically all pain with very little pleasure. The story that mattered to me has been over for a long time, and it ended in just about the worst way possible. I despise the way that BtVS ended; I don't want to think or talk about that show any more. Just seeing Buffy's name in print makes me want to hit someone.
So, that said, I'm starting to disconnect myself from fandom. I just took about 45 people off of my friends list. This isn't an attempt to hurt anyone's feelings, and I apologize if it does. The only reason I'm keeping my LJ at all is that there are a couple of friends I want to stay in touch with, and because I want to keep up with fanfic. I'm really sick of the elitism and judgementalism and sucking up and cliques and having to watch everything you say in case it gets misinterpreted and having to be nice to assholes because they're influential and all the other bullshit of LJ culture, so I'm not sure how much I'll be participating anymore, anyway. I can't stand who I am when I post here.
I'm still going to be running my website, because I haven't got anything better to do and it's as good of a distraction as any. I'll stop updating it when I find something better to occupy my time, which could be next week or next year for all I know. I do plan to leave the archive up as long as I can, though, since I know a lot of people find it to be a useful resource.
I enjoyed last night's "Angel." I thought it was funny and well-written. I don't particularly like the lack of story arc or the exposition worked into the dialogue, but I think they're basically setting the scene for the arc that will come later. I think the writers this year have a lot more passion and interest in their work than the BtVS writers had for the past two seasons. I think they're incorporating all the characters as well as can be expected; they haven't just given up on the ones they're bored by (as the BtVS writers did with most of the characters in later years). I find the jokes amusing, and while the plots have been dumbed down a bit, the themes are interesting and the writers are putting effort into exploring them.
That said, the story this year just doesn't resonate with me. When I got into BtVS -- in late season five/early season six -- something about it just connected deeply with me. There were these moments like: Spike resisting torture in Intervention, Buffy giving Spike a little kiss and telling him that what he did was "real," Spike reaching out to touch Dawn's hair, Spike reassuring Dawn that she's not evil, Spike grabbing the sword with his bare hands, Spike reassuring Tara that it was okay that she burned him, Xander lighting Spike's cigarette for him, Spike promising to protect Dawn until the end of the world, the look on Spike's face when Buffy invites him back into her home, Spike crying over Buffy's body, Spike playing cards with Dawn, Spike wincing at the Buffybot, Spike taking Buffy's hands and promising to take care of her, Spike slamming his fist into the wall, the 147 days speech, the "every night I save you" speech, etc.
Watching those, I had that feeling you get when you listen to great music, or watch a brilliant movie, or see a gorgeous painting; when you experience art that connects with you. I know this sounds clichéd and stupid, but I don't know how else to express it: it's like the art goes straight into your soul. I got that feeling again, for the first time in a long time, when I saw the Cruxshadows last weekend. I haven't gotten it from Spike since the end of Beneath You, and before that the last time was early season six.
The aspect that appealed to me most about Spike's story was that he was such an outsider, and he wanted to find love and acceptance. I wanted to see the story of someone who became a better person but didn't have to conform; I wanted to see that he deserved to be loved for what he did, not who he was. I wanted to see that his actions mattered more than his essential nature. I wanted a story that said you can be different, not fit into what other people want you to be, reject the whole idea of "normal," not be a "champion," not be the subject of prophecy, just be yourself and live your life and that's okay--you can still find a place.
This mattered to me because I've always felt this struggle, this question, can I be myself and still find a place? Do I have to conform to other people's expectations or can I be a good person according to my own definition (and who cares what anyone else thinks)? I've always been an outsider, and preferred to be an outsider ("normal" holds no appeal whatsoever) and I wanted to see a story that said that you can be an outsider and still matter, still lead a satisfying life.
Um, I didn't get that story. I got a story of conformity and destruction of individuality. I watched Spike change himself and change himself to please a moron who had no capacity whatsoever to appreciate or understand or care about him. When he refused to get over his pathetic Buffy obsession (why couldn't he see that she was a vicious selfish bitch who didn't deserve his love in any way, shape, or form???) and then went to get a soul to please her, Spike went from someone I respected, identified with, and cared about to someone I pitied.
On BtVS, I watched "normal" be held up as an ideal to which all should aspire and can never be happy without. And now in AtS I'm watching Spike desire not only normalcy, but to have his existence validated by some big shiny prophecy? Sorry, but I couldn't care less. Spike, get over it and stop waiting for someone else to validate you. You don't have to be a "champion" to matter as a person. You don't have to be human to enjoy "life." You have superpowers and eternal life; enjoy it!
(Please don't argue with me about this; it's purely subjective. I'm not saying it's some absolute truth or the only way to interpret the characters; I'm just saying this is what I feel and why I'm unhappy with the show.)
Anyway, so that's the reason I'm losing interest in the show. The story and the characters just don't resonate with me personally. I do think they've been written well so far on AtS, but the themes just aren't something I care about anymore. I still get upset when bad things happen to Spike, but nothing that fits my definition of "good" has happened in a long time, so it's basically all pain with very little pleasure. The story that mattered to me has been over for a long time, and it ended in just about the worst way possible. I despise the way that BtVS ended; I don't want to think or talk about that show any more. Just seeing Buffy's name in print makes me want to hit someone.
So, that said, I'm starting to disconnect myself from fandom. I just took about 45 people off of my friends list. This isn't an attempt to hurt anyone's feelings, and I apologize if it does. The only reason I'm keeping my LJ at all is that there are a couple of friends I want to stay in touch with, and because I want to keep up with fanfic. I'm really sick of the elitism and judgementalism and sucking up and cliques and having to watch everything you say in case it gets misinterpreted and having to be nice to assholes because they're influential and all the other bullshit of LJ culture, so I'm not sure how much I'll be participating anymore, anyway. I can't stand who I am when I post here.
I'm still going to be running my website, because I haven't got anything better to do and it's as good of a distraction as any. I'll stop updating it when I find something better to occupy my time, which could be next week or next year for all I know. I do plan to leave the archive up as long as I can, though, since I know a lot of people find it to be a useful resource.
