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[rusty_halo]

You know what sucks? Working for 10 hours, coming home and wanting desperately to take a nap, and not being able to because your roommate and some guy are having loud creaky giggly sex in the room above you.

Note that when she moved in, my roommate agreed to a list of rules that included "We tell each other before having anyone over." I always tell her before I have guests. I made this rule because I don't like being surprised to find strangers in my home. And if she wants to have her boyfriend over, I might like advance notice to make other plans for that evening, since listening to her have sex really isn't on my top list of priorities.

She's had him over four nights this week. He drinks the water in my Brita water filter without refilling it, leaves the toilet seat up, takes up the shower and leaves towels on the floor, and snores loudly. And my roommate has never once warned me in advance that he was coming over; she sneaks him in. Um, like I'm not going to notice?

*kills*
(Well, actually, *fumes silently*)

(I'm hesitant to tell her off because if she leaves I'll have to go through the stress of finding another roommate. And I can't afford to live here alone; if it takes me a while to find another roommate, well, there goes my convention money. God, I wish I was rich and could afford to live alone here.)

Comments

[mz-bstone.livejournal.com]

*pets*

had roommates, once.

afterwards, the zinnia's bloomed bloody amazing.

*evilgrin*

B

[10zlaine.livejournal.com]

Maybe you can find a way to suggest that if he's going to be staying over and has begun to treat the place not as a polite guest but as someone who now lives there, he should start to pay rent.

I know, it probably won't work, but you definitely need to speak up about it some way or another. In fact, your paragraphs above are pretty straightforward without being hostile.

:)

Just MHO

[chenanceou.livejournal.com]

If he's doing that, and so often - time to cough up his third of the rent.
Seriously - people will use and abuse until they are told not to.
I'm just sorry you are going through that stress when what you asked of her was more than reasonable.

[rockgoddes.livejournal.com]

Your place, hon, you make the rules. You just need to be straightforward and honest with her, tell her your concerns in a non-confrontational manner, and ask her how she thinks the problems would best be resolved.

Don't let her walk all over you, babe, you don't deserve it.

[paratti.livejournal.com]

::Hugs you::
Having had roommates from hell, I know it sucks rocks.
Also reccing the rent option. Nothing like being told to cough up the money to keep someone behaving as per agreements.

[drujan.livejournal.com]

This is why I never had roommates, ever. **shudder**

I concur with the above suggestions - your place, your rules.

[onetwomany.livejournal.com]

I'll third the contribution-to-rent option, but you'll probably have to approach it diplomatically, because, as I'm sure you know, people can be really sensitive about that kind of thing. Maybe just point out the increase in the water bill or something and suggest that he make a contribution because you're living on the edge as it is. Also, you might want to read the terms of your lease - if it says something about guests or whatever, there's another arrow for your bow.

I'm all about non-confrontation as well, so I sympathise. The stress of roomates is why I ended up moving home. Just remember, a couple more years, and hopefully you will be able to live by yourself :)

[needfire.livejournal.com]

Been there done that. Still hoping no-one discovers the bodies. Have you considered looking for somewhere smaller and less expensive? I can guarantee that the relief of having your home as your own is worth the sacrifice of the aesthetic.

[thedeadlyhook.livejournal.com]

Be rude to the guy instead. You've got zero reason to be nice to him. Maybe if the place ain't so accomodating, they'll take their love shackin' elsewhere, or at least be quieter about it.
I'd recommend the living alone thing unless your social circle would be adversely affected. I've scrimped to do it myself, so I can attest to the bite it takes out of your finances, but your living sitch isn't a small item in one's day to day sanity level. Money can be got. Time and stress... harder to replace.

[fishsanwitt]

This sounds like it totally sucks! Your house, your rules.